Have you experienced that familiar feeling which starts with a quivering lip, faster blinking, hollow feeling in the stomach, a lump in the throat and blood gushing to the face……and before you know it, tears slipping down the corner of your eyes?
My sisters & many of my friends know that I cry almost at the drop of a hat. As a child when I could not cope up with the atrocities (!) of my sisters & cousin (who lived with us), I shed tears….. not that I wanted to, but because they came automatically once I can take it no longer. They used to complain that I try to win always by shedding tears (it was not true….naah….not at all).
As I grew older, my tear ducts found newer avenues to shed the water in them. Apart from the times I got hurt, I also cried for a beautiful heart touching song, an emotional movie, a genuine compliment coming my way, a breathtaking scenery, being mad at someone and not able to speak my mind to that person, a friend’s loss, for the growing flab around my waist, for my near & dear ones….. & sometimes for the heck of it. I may not wail loud to bring down the roof, but in these occasions & many others, I experience that familiar feeling and a tiny prick in the corner of my eye and a lump in my throat.
“Do not apologize for crying. Without this emotion, we are only robots.”
Many a times I wonder, does crying signify weakness? In the society we live, the answer maybe is yes. Especially in our professional lives, tears certainly are considered to be a sign of weakness. But then, for me being able to cry is so human & real. It is therapeutic. It may be ill – timed, humiliating or unattractive, but many will agree with me on this that it makes us feel better. It unburdens us of the mental baggage & clears our head. A perfect stress reliever. They even say that people feel better after a good cry because hormones associated with stress are released and eliminated. Also, crying maybe considered as a sign of maturity too; of being confident to handle and express our emotions.
But then, shedding tears is not always appropriate. A tear in response to a sad/emotional event is understood, but crying over sour grapes or to be manipulative is not correct.
At a personal level, I shed tears quite often. I find it difficult to keep my emotions in check…… and so I let them flow out (if not always, but most of the times). I cry out of relief, joy, sadness, loneliness, pain & for many more emotions. I believe one who cries aloud, laughs the easiest & loudest. Also, once I cry my heart out, my anger/sadness, etc. comes down to a great extent. It becomes easier to forgive, forget and move on.
So, does this make me a cry baby?
“I have been crying,” she replied, simply, “and it has done me good. It helps a woman you know, just as swearing helps a man.”